As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soulHermes Trismegistus
Hands down Red Lipstick has got to be my absolute favorite go to color for lips, and has never disappointed. Red lipstick has always been there for me when I paired a white t-shirt with some jeans and needed a touch of glam, or when I’ve gone all black and required a pop of drama. It’s been there for me during the holidays and complimented my agenda for seduction. If Red Lipstick was a girlfriend, she’d be the one who knew all your darkest secrets and be the one encouraging you to live your best hoe life. Red lipstick, like many of us girls has had a checkered past, carrying reputation with the harlots, hussies, and courtesans -victims of slut shaming. Perhaps that is why I feel wearing Red Lipstick is my tribute to the women before me who paved the way to paint my face as I see fit, without prejudice.
In the article Empowering, alluring, degenerate? The evolution of red lipstick it mentions that “Until lipstick was popularized in the early 20th century, red lips were often associated with morally dubious women: impolite, sexually amoral, even heretical. In the Dark Ages, red lips were seen as a sign of commingling with the devil. The makeup “was associated with this mysterious, frightening femininity,” says Rachel Felder, author of last year’s “Red Lipstick: An Ode to a Beauty Icon.
Red lipstick also has its roots in political movements throughout history, so wear it loud and wear it proud!
Here are some of the Reds I have come across and use!
Best Reds For Every Skin Tone
Shiseido’s most popular lipstick is a long-lasting, full-coverage lipstick that features a special gel technology that is weightless on the lips and also delvers full-coverage. The shade name is really something special to the brand too; Shizuka translates to “quiet” or “calm” in Japanese.
$26 (Shop Now)
When it comes to universal beauty, Fenty Beauty does best. The vibrancy and high pigmentation of Uncensored make it a favorite in Lagos, says Nigerian makeup artist Joyce Jacob.
$24 (Shop Now)
This luxurious lipstick may seem like a stretch, price-wise, but there is a reason it’s Net-a-Porter’s best-selling red in Paris, the city of red lipstick.
$90 (Shop Now)
Winter Footwear is probably the most practical investment you could make if you live in Frigid Winter Climate like myself. And if you are one of those folks who willingly vacation to places like where I live (Rocky Mountains/Banff/Lake Louise) then you will definitely thank me later. Winter here in these parts, you can get away with a far more casual look as life doesn’t miss a beat here despite the minus temperature. So I’ve included some of the boots I have been eyeing for my new Winter boot purchase where style needs not to be left behind in the fall and summer months.
- I have a tendency to smack assess. Men, Bouncers, Waiters- I don’t discriminate. And I get away with it! Blame it on growing up in era where inappropriate sexual advances against women didn’t come with a hashtag. I’m seeking vengeance, and if your bottom looks as good as I bet it sounds, your next.
- Thanks to the advancements in the cosmetic dermatology I can look like I’m in my late 20’s, have the libido of a woman in her 30’s, and the brains to put both those generations in my witty cloud of dust.
- This one is along the same lines but different. I don’t have to finance my new body parts that I feel need enhancement. I also don’t have to entertain an old fat man for them, unless that old fat man is your husband. I can pay for them with that sweet salary I’ve worked so hard for, and won’t need new ones before I die. By the time many of these young gals are done paying for theirs, its time for a new rack baby!
- Being in my 40’s has tapered out the acquaintances and my group of friends is small and solid now. Many are the O.G.’s from the early days, so you know they got stories for days on you. We don’t spend a lot of time needing one another because by now we’ve pretty much fucked up every which way. By the time we’ve rescheduled 5 times and changed locations we are just ready to live life to the fullest and not waste a moment crying over something stupid. We are a guaranteed good time.
- I use being too old as an excuse to not stand in long lineups for the cool clubs and bars. Security digs it, I can tell. My humbleness gets mistaken for needing pity, a kind offering and works to my advantage every time. I have a P.M. shelf life of approximately 4-5 hours. I need to be out the house by 7:30 max and a good buzz on by 10 in order to secure a spot in some hipster bar where I can locate a stool or face total feet paralysis from my heels, whichever comes first.
- I love not feeling guilty or like I’m missing out anymore. In fact, I turn my nose up to anything less than something fucking spectacular and momentous. I’ve become a connoisseur you may say of good times, and if the recipe doesn’t have the finely tuned ingredients, then I’ll pass and loose zero sleep.
- There is something mysterious about women in their 40’s, and it draws in the curious types. Young men want to explore why they are attracted to you. Young women are drawn to your confidence and want you to be their first female experience. There is a misconception that our options become limited in terms of our sexuality, however people couldn’t be more wrong.
- I’ve mastered the art of not putting shit off. I actually go get my oil changed when the indicator says so, not when I’ve blown an engine. I put winter tires on in winter and enjoy driving safely in snow. Tummy rumbling at night? I’ve got a fridge full of groceries because I learned that Click and Collect allows me to have food and avoid peopling altogether. Registration needs renewal, parking/speeding tickets paid…Well actually that ones a complete lie. Why they always trying to stick me for all my paper?
- All the things in life that don’t make me feel good, I don’t do. That includes people, places, activities, jobs, and favors. Anything that leaves me feeling emptier than I did before, or feeling like I have to do something because I have to, I don’t entertain it. This has opened the door for all the things, fascinating people, and interests I do love! It opens the door for further opportunity to be loved and love thyself for all that thyself is, and she’s Hella dope. Making room in your life for you is the most unselfish thing you can do for yourself.
- The world remains my oyster in which I can do whatever it is I put my mind too. I’m equipped with the experience, the lessons, and the confidence to accomplish whatever is in my sites and do it with grace and style that other will feel inspired by. How great is it to be in a position to inspire others!
We all have been guilty of trying to hide the evidence of our impulsive online shopping. I’m a heavy subscriber of the Treat Yo’Self Tribe and have been caught a few times. Its usually a minimal response by the witnesses such as a head shake or an unsolicited opinion on if I really need more shoes. Uhhhh Duh! Yes.
I believe the first thing we need to ask ourselves is what are my shopping habits when it comes to personal style. Are you more likely to buy high end whereby your focus is namely on a feature piece that you style around. Do you stay with the current trends often buying the up to date items then ditching within months to make room for the new ones. Do you get bored easily and seek to wear new stuff on the regular but regrettably left with items in your closet you’ve worn once having moved on to the next best look? I tend to be the last one which requires a more strategic shopping approach.
I’ve compiled a few of my favorite online clothing and beauty stores that have the best loyalty rewards programs that you can optimize your savings but also get free dollars to spend!
Loyalty Rewards + Sales = Free Stuff!
Be prepared to tell those Shopping Shamer’s “Look what I got for free!” and stop lying about that outfit you’re wearing is old and has been sitting in your closet for awhile. They’re not buying it anymore babes!
I love this website and currently have an ongoing cart with over a 100 items in it. The quality varies but I’ve never gotten one item from here that I wouldn’t wear and didn’t fit. The sizes are accurate, and the clothing is priced perfectly for someone who likes variety and changes their look up often. What I love about this site the most is that they have so many opportunities to earn reward points that wont take forever to build up for free items.
One of my favorite things to do on the Shein App is creating Look Books of outfits you can create with their items. You can submit the looks you create to win and earn points.
This is an example of one I created and was awarded Editors Pick Points:
For the longest time I never went in this store because I thought they didn’t have jeans that would fit my Big Ass. Boy was I wrong! They have some of the softest and best fitting denim for the ladies with smaller waists and luscious goddess curves. At AEO you earn ten points for every dollar spent at American Eagle and Aerie in-store or online, and 2,500 points equal a $10 rewards. Bonus, earn a 15% off birthday coupon, and for every 5 bras or jeans purchased, you get one free! Spend more to level up, and if you spend over $350 a year, you could earn free shipping on every order!
This online store lets you earn rewards by not only purchasing from Urban Outfitters, but you can also earn points by sharing, entering contests, visiting store events, connecting your social media accounts and more! With VIP status, you get a birthday reward and tons of chances to win signed merch from your favourite artists! You can redeem your points to get deeper sale discounts, early access, and tons more.
4. The Bay
The Bay is no longer your moms department store and has an amazing online selection of high end designer items. It’s “Canada’s Iconic Department Store” that has been often underestimated in terms of the clothing lines they carry depending on what store you’ve visited in person. They are notorious for their Bay Days whereby you can find that one item you’ve been holding off for a significant discount.
With the Bay’s HBC Rewards, you can earn a point for every dollar spent at the Bay in-store or online, if you spend up to $399.99 a year. If spending more than $400 a year, you can earn 1.5 points for every dollar spent and 2 points for every dollar spent if you’re spending over $1,200 a year. You can redeem your points for The Bay gift cards, Air Miles rewards, and even donate to charity! HBC Rewards isn’t the fanciest or the best of the rewards programs out there, but you’re probably spending money at The Bay anyway, so might as well sign up!
I love this store for all the essential basics that are needed to pad your wardrobe. Everyone has a “favorite white t-shirt” that gets worn weekly whereby their quality works in your favor for this exact reason. Simons rewards lets you earn one point for every dollar spent. You earn a $10 rewards card for the first 500 points earned, and $1 for every 50 points following that. It’s not the most lucrative program for earning and spending, but The Simons also lets you earn 2X the points for your birthday month, exclusive online contests, and an extended return period. Keep spending to level up, where you could earn free delivery and free alterations!
Shopping Addict Pro Tip:
I’ve never loved selling my barely worn clothes on Facebook Marketplace as its time consuming and hit or miss. Consignment stores can also be picky and selective of what they are looking for making a trip out there a waist of time. Below are a couple sites I’ve used to put money in my pocket and keep my wardrobe fresh and exciting with each new season.
Here’s how ThredUp works. You send your high quality clothing that you no longer want to ThredUp. When they receive it, they’ll assess it and give you a credit to ThredUp so you can get clothes for free.
You can also get credits for referring others to use ThredUp – up to $10 per referral. With ThredUp you’ll only find items in excellent condition, so you can be sure you’re getting quality clothing at a great price – especially if you get it for free by using store credits!
Rehash allows you to list the clothes you have that you want to swap for something else. When you list, you can give specifics about what you want to trade for. Another option you have is to simply put “anything” in that section and see what kinds of offers come your way.
There aren’t any fees to join Rehash or to list or sell your items, however you may have to work out shipping plans and costs with other swappers.