Shifting from Likeability to Connectability: Humanizing The Women Behind the Grind

Behind the Broad is Just a girl who still loves to do handstands and cannon balls at the pool

When I began my blog page I have to admit I thought that I’d get more interest from women looking for the opportunity to be celebrated and talked about with regards to their achievements, charities, organizations and businesses they were involved in. I’ve spent months canvassing friends asking them to submit with not much interest only to be left with the question to myself- What Gives?

Free publicity and adoration seems like a No-Brainer.

“Why Won’t You Let Me Love You.”

-Cece.D

Then it hit me, perhaps women aren’t seeing the deeper value in what they do? Can they not see what I see? Are they unable to allow themselves to be praised by a real person with real readers who put aside time to visit my site and read my banter religiously? Intention is everything in this world, and if its one thing, my Blog Content is never mindless or unoriginal- nor is my effort to spotlight you fierce mystical queens out there.

In the early months of TalezFromABroad, there were so many ideas I was developing and some were ditched along the way, but one remained important to me and that was to write a feature for every Friday. On this day, a Woman/Pronoun Preferred that was doing something amazing like being involved in community programming/activism or running their own business/empire would be featured. Not only was this an opportunity for free advertising and to get the word out- but to connect again as humans who were all feeling the isolation, not to mention an unhealthy relationship with E-Commerce and Amazon who have decimated small businesses. Guilty as charged.

In my heart I had envisioned creating a culture of Women who weren’t afraid to allow the world to look past the heavily filtered photos and carefully curated Lifestyle Image that appreciatively holds a place in marketing a brand or an idea. However, I felt there was a gap, whereby I lacked connection to the brands and women out there who were obviously killing it, yet I still was left only compelled on a pretty superficial level. To expand on this further, my goal was to not undermine the important aspects of all the incredible determination that goes behind the manifestations of something successful, but to build onto the integrity of it.

It’s an aspect that I feel gets forgotten along the way when women like myself come across other women doing profoundly powerful things with their lives, then somewhere along the lines the value of their work goes unseen. You see there is a largely growing group of female entrepreneurs and go-getters out there that have had to pull-off other women’s wigs to get to where their at now. It is a dog-eat-dog world out there, and us felines are just as hungry for a piece of the pie. And while money is a primary motivator for many of us, so is the thirst for some gratitude and shine.

My Sacred Friday Fire Ritual-Rude to not bring an Offering

For those that are mothers perhaps can relate all too well with the feeling of being the underpaid employee who never seems to get a pay raise, yet the work gets harder and responsibilities just get longer. You know the ones who work 12 hour shifts, come home, pick up everyone’s shit make the bed, do laundry, work out…you know handling their BIZNASS.  Or perhaps, the fierce new graduate who spends endless extra hours at a new company and gets passed over for a position she likely deserves for the “Broskie: who has a better understanding of craft beers and beard oils. What about the woman who left her career to have children and raise them, then is all of a sudden is facing a divorce with no recent work experience or updated training and is now having to climb the corporate ladder from the bottom rather than starting where she left off. There are stories of triumph behind all of these because all of these are real life examples of women doing amazing things every day in our communities in the shadows without getting the clout they deserve.

Maybe us ladies need to unionize? However in my humble opinion hasn’t gotten me farther ahead in the world of Social Work that’s for sure. Clearly the Public Servant Career Path is exactly what it says in the name…SERVANT.  What I have learned from being a servant to the public at large is the ability to use these interactions in a way that helps me find my shine. Part of my role when faced with difficult and complex cases is to find the areas of resilience and strength even when it seems like there is none within the darkest of moments. These are not always shared with them in those exact moment as you can imagine being the “Bright Side Betty” could catch you a throat punch real quick in my world. However, when practicing this on a regular basis, it becomes second nature to silence the voices of weakness and turn the volume up what keeps us putting one foot forward each day. This is what makes me tick, and I just know it does for others! Connecting women to stories of resilience backed by tangible evidence that supports the idea that there are more women out there where their success has come as easy as their Social Media Feed may portray.

So perhaps with further insight into my hopes, I’m going forward with my hopes to Feature more Women on my Feature Friday’s.

If you are interested and want more details click LETS CELEBRATE YOU

For More Articles like this by me:

Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing: The Power of a Woman Pack

A Series of Acts Towards Self-Sufficiency: Playing Hard to Get with Society

6 thoughts on “Shifting from Likeability to Connectability: Humanizing The Women Behind the Grind

  1. Awesome article, Cecile! I don’t own a business per se, but I have a passion for using my experiences to reach out to kids, teens, and adults who are bullied and I’m willing for you to feature me if it’s cool. Thank you so much for your passion in helping other women become the powerhouses they were meant to be! ❤

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